Besides men defining themselves in their own right, a traditional masculine default is all many men know. And that containing traditional misandry is included and, if reinstated, will merely take us back to a past that enslaved men with a chivalrous mindset that welcomed and incorporated feminism. The unsavvy chivalry premise from which feminism is derived must be seen as the underlying problem.
For men’s equality to live, chivalry must die. Since men are groomed from boyhood to serve women as to define their manhood, boys are often more mentally mature than are the men they later become.
To ensure that men have real equality standards, to include equal value and status to women, will require that they be rid of their use, lesser status and disposable pawn identity instilled in them from boyhood. Some of that may be part of the role they later choose, hopefully with some reciprocity. However, a basic existence defined in men’s own right will need to be an established precedence as a prerequisite to fulfil men’s complete development as individuals and complete adults.
The effect will be realized when boys are no longer treated with less love, affection and consideration to girls. No servitude identity will be instilled upon boys and attached to men any more than to women. The dinosaur bigotted and calloused expression for a male to receive no empathy for his abuse, for him to take it ‘like a man’, with that defining him as being a man (“Man up!”), will no longer be acceptable or tolerated.
This sex bigotry equates to the same mentality that applies to racial bigotry. A man is to no longer accept his place as a second-class human being to a woman. When it takes shaming to ‘make a man’ something is wrong in the process of adequate development. “You are not man enough,” “Act like a man!” To act like an adult has legitimate applications to everyone, males and females, and this is where we go wrong in only applying accountability to males and not females.
A common declaration by women is that “Women don’t need men anymore.” Need? Why do women have to need men to want them? Is the only reason women want men is to use them for some purpose? (e.g. finances, protection, etc.) Is there no love and affection or personal value/attachment or bonding involved? The pawn status of men is thus well demonstrated. But this also demonstrates a very poor quality of modern-day women, which is hardly surprising given the vast amounts of feminist (misandrist) influence injected as continual doses of poison over several generations.
Men have got to stop wanting to be needed by women such as for a purpose. This is the status and value applied to a beggar for meaning–a willing slave whose value is only granted by their use to someone else–to stay a slave. Like an old plough horse that has served its purpose and is no longer needed, a man becomes obsolete only when his worthiness is dependent on his use to others. The female/feminist declaration that men are becoming obsolete captures this striking realization of an existence that ignorant men want to cling to. They unwittingly will perpetuate the very problem that is biting them in the ass. Women, without regard or attachment to the person, will continue to use men to take half of their assets in divorce settlements, gain custody for child support, alimony and subject men to criminal liability.
Coming from an already skewed narrative, unsupported in actuality, is the male being ‘toxic’ (although a ‘toxic’ derivative does exist in the male as it does in the female―e.g. traditional and modern misandry). When a man is vulnerable to a woman he will no longer be seen as the monster that needs to be attacked when the opportunity arises for a woman to ‘get even’ as the typical feminist narrative often depicts. Right? When men are vulnerable and in the trust of a woman, don’t blame men for being vulnerable but instead hold women accountable for not being trustworthy with men’s vulnerability.
Feminists have conveniently played upon an ill-conceived past male identity (one ironically sculpted by women) to ‘justify’ injustice and abuse to men. But from this same founding of male identity is a modification (a mutation of what women want) per continued male servitude despite women taking half of the needed resources for men to fulfil that traditional role. Men sculpted from boyhood to serve and accommodate women will, without some help and legitimate guidance, continue to accept their fate as masochists per their blind servitude to women. Redefining masculinity comes in the same box as equal justice for all. A defined male existence must be built upon that premise, for no other, regardless of the social, cultural or possible biogenetic influences, offers any legitimate alternative. Humans being the most adaptable species on earth are more than capable of this integrity due to their intellectual abilities.
Alan Millard continues to be a prominent men’s equality advocate since the early ’80s. He began writing his first book, Equality: A Man’s Claim, in the Spring of 1983. He has been thereafter continually affiliated with the major men’s rights organizations and has contributed many articles, radio, and some television broadcasts. His work includes research conducted through his graduate and doctoral coursework and knowledge acquired through his independent studies and colleague associations as a university professor. He heads the group Men’s Equality on Facebook. He is the author of three books addressing men’s equality concerns. His most recent book, A Flaw From Within: How Women’s Higher Status Defies Equal Justice, Violates Men, and Destroys Society, is available through Amazon.
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Alan Millard continues to be a prominent men’s equality advocate since the early ’80s. He began writing his first book, Equality: A Man’s Claim, in the Spring of 1983. He has been thereafter continually affiliated with the major men’s rights organizations and has contributed many articles, radio, and some television broadcasts. His work includes research conducted through his graduate and doctoral coursework and knowledge acquired through his independent studies and colleague associations as a university professor. He heads the group Men’s Equality on Facebook. He is the author of three books addressing men’s equality concerns. His most recent book, A Flaw From Within: How Women’s Higher Status Defies Equal Justice, Violates Men, and Destroys Society, is available through Amazon.